Why it's sometimes good to NOT like your coach

Copyright (c) 2010 Pamela Bruner

Coaching has become a world-wide phenomenon now, and many successful people are realizing the benefits of having a coach, whether for business, relationship, or health issues. What you want from a coach may vary, and what you look for in your coach, and in the coaching relationship, will also vary from person to person.

However, one misconception that many people have about coaching is that they should have a coach that they never have any challenges with. I believe in a different model of coaching, one that is more empowering.

When you step up in your business and in your life, and you play bigger, you will usually experience fear and resistance. Issues will come up, sometimes ones that you thought you had dealt with. And perhaps you did deal with them - at the lower level at which you were previously playing.

Now, though, it's a new game. When you write down your goals, and speak your dreams, and take action to bring them into reality, you'll get challenged. In fact, if you don't get challenged you're probably not playing big enough. You NEED to have someone in your life who pushes you, who calls you to be the best that you can be. For some of you that will be a coach.

Your coach's job is to get you to step up, to play big. So sometimes, while you're challenged, it's easy to dislike your coach. Just think about a sports coach, who tells you 'You need to run an extra 10 sprints a day to get ready for the next competition.' You're not, in that moment, going to love your coach! In moments of clarity, though, you realize that your coach is serving your highest good by holding a vision of you living at your highest potential.

I get emails every day saying how much my work helps people, both clients and people who are simply on my list. And sometimes I get annoyed emails, and I know that I've called someone to step into their greatness, and they are struggling with resistance.

It may be a program you're in, or a book you read, or a coach. But when you find someone or something that challenges you, that occasionally irritates you into being bigger than you thought you could be, it's OK to get upset (and then use a technique like tapping to clear your upset). But not being challenged is not an option if you're trying to create the business, and life of your dreams.

So find someone that challenges you, and step into your greatness!