How to Get Past the Anger You Feel After a Breakup

Getting rid of your anger is a integral part in working through a breakup. What it all boils down to is learning how to handle your anger and how to work through it. So the best advice for the broken hearted is to realize that your anger exists and then work on removing it. You do not want to allow the hate and anger you have for the other person to end up running your life. Doing so will only allow your ex to have an even larger affect on your life. Thus, me must learn how to release this anger to move on.

To begin, let's do some visualization. See yourself doing exactly what you want to do to your ex. If you want to insult them in public, call them names or just cuss them up and down, visualize yourself being there and actually doing these things. Having as much detail as you can in this exercise will help you in visualizing yourself doing these things. Your brain will be 'tricked' into thinking that what you were visualizing actually happened and thus relieve you of that anger. The brain will not know the difference between you visualizing yourself doing these things and you actually doing them, as the more detail you add the more you can fool the brain that it really happened.

Take some time and write out everything that you want to say or what you would like to do to the other person as this will help to get over the breakup, but I have one trick that I would like to share about this. Be as detailed as you can when you are writing out everything that you are feeling. Write out things that you would like to say and why you would like to say them as well as how that would make you feel. Do not hold back and be sure to get everything out. Leave no stone unturned as you have plenty of paper. Once you start to feel better about getting everything out once you have written it all down, take all the pages you have written and burn them. All of your feelings are in that document and you already feel better since getting your feeling out, so there is no need to hold onto this for any reason as you are already done with this person. Shred or burn the piece of paper to put a finishing touch to the relationship, but know that getting your feelings out! is what will really help you the most.

You can also take a step up in physical intensity and use your voice to let out all of your anger and frustration. You will want to take it a bit careful when you are doing this because you do not want to cause any damage to your voice or to your throat. Find a place where you will not really be heard. You can drive your car or even walk to a secret place. Once you are there, just let it all out and scream until you begin to feel better. You can scream and not worry about what you are saying or you can put into words things that you would like that other person to hear. Just be sure not to strain too much and to take breaks. We will want to make sure that we have a voice when we are done.

Escalating on the physical scale, we can also take your mind off of the breakup by playing sports. Sports can be social and fun at the same time. Team sports allow you to get your blood pumping and compete while also allowing you to interact socially with other people. Getting your cardiovascular system pumping will help you to take your mind off of the breakup by giving you something to focus on. This exercise is not limited to team sports. You can do things by yourself like throwing balls against a wall, jogging or even running. The most important point to this is to be sure that you are exerting yourself physically. This will help you stay fit, but more importantly, will take your mind off the breakup.

This last exercise I would like to mention about ways to remove anger after a breakup is more violent, but it will take your mind off of the breakup as well making you feel great. You want to find an area where other people cannot be harmed and where you are safe as well. You will want to find things around you on the ground or even bring things that you can break. Be sure not to break things that are important to you or to anyone else. You can break sticks across other trees, put some ice in a bag and crush the ice, punch a punching bag or even bang on some pieces of meat with a mallet to tenderize it. All of these things will take your mind off of your ex as well as getting your blood pumping.